Thoughts about marriage.......
They came to my mind because one of my dear friends Prasath is getting married soon.
People Marry , i think so that they can comfort and help each other over a long run.
But what exactly are these things ? Is there a defination of marriage ?
Oxford dictionary says :
to join for life as husband and wife according to the laws and customs of a nation
to wed .. which is a very private affair of one's life, one has to take vows not self referantially but to abide by law.
If it is by the law then to me it makes an agreement or surrender.
People marry , some of my friends say that they married for love however most of them married for companionship.
But what about the lack of love or companionship which comes for the long years after marriage ? Atlease in India its not common to break marriages for "Lack of Companionship".
Anyways its none of my business to worry about others ;-) .
As wise man has already said : Everyone should marry , Its not fair to be happy always.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
3 comments:
Hi Ashish,
It's great to see the post. One of the relevant topics, as we will all witness the event in near future. Let's discuss.
Let's take the points one by one.
1. Is it by law ? It is albait a social norm first. Then when the soceity wrote down formalised law then they covered this topic too.
Perhaps it was in the prehistoric times when people figured out that 'family' constitutes the building block of society. And how to form and maintain this building block ? Perhaps the most feasible answer was 'Marriage'.
It was natural , isn't it ? And it was for good.
As the society grew complex, the 'Laws' came into picture. To enforce the 'Family Structure' and to bolster the 'Bond Of Marriage' .
Anyway, remember the anecdotes from 'The Fountainhead' ? 'Absolute freedom comes from absolute surrender of your will' . That was too exaggerated a concept , but some truth is there.
2. Why marry ? for love and/or compnanionship ? what happens when love seemingly withers ?
This will obviously invite more complex questions like 'How do you define love" ?
Physical attraction (Love as you mean by making love) ? Of course this will go away. But there is more than that. 'Companionship' may still be there even when bond of physical love loses it's strength.
Then comes 'dependency' . As one ages he/she becomes increasingly weak and dependent. Both physically and emotionally. At that point having a 'life partner' may be a boon.
Things are pretty complex . But if we give 'love' a holistic package and see it as a complex amalgum of Sex,Companionship,Freindship,Dependency and Caregiving then probably 'marriage' will come out as the best option to exercise "Love" .
After all, this process is the evolutionary outcome of thousands of years of trial and error.
Kaushik .
Kaushik,
Thanks for the comment ...
So some one else too reads this blog. i am happy ;-).
Point1 : ofcourse this idea would have been tossed by society or shall we say the "KARTA DHARTAS " of societies at that time. So that it becomes easier to manage humans else there may be chaos everywhere , because we all (hmm .. almost all ) Look for physical as well as emotional support.
Point 2 : Why marry ... is a very personal question because it may depend on person who is getting married.
may do it for love,sex,support,money,family or many countless reasons.
yes the process has been there , and i agree i can not think of a better process when applied to the masses ( we are talking about a group of million people not one or two individuals ).
Though none of the individual may be truly happy , but overall happiness may be greater in society because of marriage rather than allowing individuals to do their own things....
Don't marry, stay happy!! And then die...
Post a Comment